To the 7 years of Togetherness

A conference call with my 2 very close girlfriends  after a gap of more than 2 months made me realize  how everything has changed in the past  4 years , I realized it a very long time ago but today I accepted it . There is a fine line between realization and acceptance , I was still living in the first stage.
But today was the Day to accept it.
The friendship dates back to 2006 , 7 + years now , then I didn't even imagine that someday the life would be what it is today, that we all will be in different cities with different circumstances and priorities , that  we wont meet everyday or lets get Little realistic once in few months, that we wont be able to talk everyday , that whatsapp will be the first mode of contact .
None of this was thought about , the set of expectations from our future were very different . We have thought of working in the same city , living the kind of life together that we couldn't while we were  in hostel  and this is not unrealistic neither hyped  nor does it look like we were trying to live a REEL life?? But still it didn't happen, why??  Maybe because  we didn't try hard enough to make it work or the circumstances didn't support us , Or did we know already that  this is not going to happen and we chose our own ways assuming that's how its meant to be

7 years ago our lives would be somewhat like this-
 Go to college, meet up in cafeteria ( yes, we hostelers were too close and wouldn't leave a chance to catch-up in the canteen even if we  shared the same room or corridor!) or in the mess for lunch ,go for our respective CA ,CAT coaching ,  evenings would be spent at  the nearest Chaat Corner checking out  Hot - brainless Delhi boys and their Super Hot cars , chat endlessly with a bowl of Maggie in the night and crib about the awful bf's we had or how broke we were , in addition we ll have  late night parties, movies, the much awaited Official  sociales with famous  Boys hostels  all across Delhi and  regular room-parties where the agenda was Gossip( wonder what  we talked about for nights together!)

The CHANGE:
After 3 years of graduation it changed to meeting up once in a month at least ,having a conference call whenever we couldn't decide on a party dress or what to gift our respective bf's along-with regular calls every 2 days to heal our otherwise tired souls, I knew it was changing but  life was moving at a fast pace and all of us were running fast to keep up with it.

At the end of 5th year  there was plethora of change , I moved to Banaglore, Mrigakshi moved to Hisar , Pankhuri kept on shuttling between Delhi and her hometown. There was too much disturbance, all of us trying hard to keep up with the situations we were put in, trying to make the best , moving too fast in a direction we didn't plan for us, but that's what we were told by the more experienced people which we didn't want to believe otherwise.
We  thought this is it, we are settled now , this is how it will be  from now on-wards , little aware that the major change was yet to come. How ignorant we can be.

Mirgakshi was the first one to get married, it changed the equation totally , took a lot of time for us( ME)
 to adjust , changes are not only  inevitable but Hard too.
We again tried to manage with the situation and tried keeping the bond intact , the no. of calls decreased as whatsapp came into picture ,the no. of meetings decreased as  the distance increased from few kms to few hundered kms ( I haven't yet met her, its been more than a year now)
Not that we didn't  try but the situations just didn't  let us and one person cant manage , it has to be mutual , think we missed that part.

Now our conference call goes like this-
The married one talks about how marriage  has changed her life for good or bad, what new she cooked and how she has started to feel her baby kick ( we gonna welcome our first nephew/niece)
The other one is going to get married in 2 months time and we plan her trousseau and what place she is going for the honeymoon and how happy she is ( God bless her)
And I am the last one to give updates with rather no Updates.
The difference is Palpable.

More Then a Year Ago

Now its time for a change again  and this one going to be a big one as  one of us will become a mother, the other a wife and 3rd pretty much the same.
Again there will be an effort to make the equation work and lots of adjustments in expectations , maybe our friendship will survive all this , yet again, or maybe not ( I will rather be optimistic).
I cant say if the bond got stronger or not , but what matter is its still there and I hope it stays .
That change is Inevitable and the sooner we accept the happier we would be , situations change , people change , your importance in their lives change but the time we  shared  is a treasure ,we cant live it again and that's the beauty of it and that's why we value  it so much.

In the end what matters is ,we still share our lives.

“We'll be Friends Forever, won't we, Pooh?' asked Piglet.
Even longer,' Pooh answered.” 

+mrigakshi singal  - You are still the self Proclaimed Princess.
+pankhuri grover  - You are still the Babe.