The day I told my parents I got a job, even before getting the location or the offer letter , after the congratulatory ritual the next statement they made was" Now you should get Married" . 2.5 years since that day , it has just got worse!!
This is a common well heard story of any youth in their mid twenties. "When are you Getting married" is the first question everyone asks these days, everyone, And I really mean Everyone here! The married friends even if not happy in their own marriage wont leave a chance to cultivate your mind with the seed of getting married , the Cousins who have lived through the entire phase and no matter how unhappy they are make sure to put a teaspoonfull of ghee in the otherwise sky roaring flame started by the parents , I dont even want to mention the Uncles and Aunties and the neighbors and all the random people we meet , they are beyond their limits!!
The hype has been so strong that few of my friends ( count me in) dont go to home for months to escape this torture , family ,friends just dont seem to understand. I hate that category of friends who just cant undertand the single reason we quote for not getting married, even if our age their shrunken mind cant interepret the arguments we make . What matter for them is to just convince us for the idea of getting married as if we are their kids and if we don't listen the society would murder them. I understand these guys are concerned but friends are meant to stand for what we want and not impose something they deem right, arent they? Something like getting married might be right for them just for simple reason "they are different" but it is not be for us.
I fail to understand why cant people accept the simple rule of live and let live, When we never guided them as to when to get married , when to have a baby , when to shit , it amazes me why cant they shut their mouth and let us suffer ( for they feel we are lonely). I have always relished all the moments when my cousins/friends got married, it was their day and we were there to share their happiness but hey that doesnt mean that we should get married.
Marriage no matter how beautiful or how ugly is a major decision and every human has different priortes , marriage might not be top on the list . It is as simple as that. The society argues there is a certain age, the right age when you should tie the knot, who made these rules??? who??? And how many such rules we have been following?? On the contrary they say there is never a Right age and never a Right time!!
There are better things for us to do, few want to have a good career, few wants to travel, few are not ready yet , few don't believe in the constitution of Marriage , few are still waiting for the right person, and few just don't care . There is nothign wrong with any of this, nothing. And please dont argue with the statement that you can still do all of this after getting married, because you cant, you just cant, there is a change in the equation once you tie the knot.
It gets darn difficult to live in such a society that imposes such thoughts and listen to our heart , but hardly anyone understands this.So respect the choices we make rather then making us feel miserable by asking that question hundred times because it wont help the cause, it might just bring some distance and nothing good.There are so many ways people scare us, you wont get a good bloke, you would miss the right age to have kids, you will be lonely blah blah, . We are way above these factors or at least ignoring them as they don't seem to matter , so people keep all these warnings with yourself and save it for your kids.
For those who share the same thoughts it doesn't matter what society says, Marriage might be a good thing to consider as it gives you a companion to share the life with but its not compulsory , maybe not right now but after few years, when you deem right. We ll never be out of people to share our happiness , maybe the no. would decrease but there will always be enough. What matters is we are content with the decision we are making , we are listening to what our heart says because in the end what will matter is if we listened to our heart or the society.
This is a common well heard story of any youth in their mid twenties. "When are you Getting married" is the first question everyone asks these days, everyone, And I really mean Everyone here! The married friends even if not happy in their own marriage wont leave a chance to cultivate your mind with the seed of getting married , the Cousins who have lived through the entire phase and no matter how unhappy they are make sure to put a teaspoonfull of ghee in the otherwise sky roaring flame started by the parents , I dont even want to mention the Uncles and Aunties and the neighbors and all the random people we meet , they are beyond their limits!!
The hype has been so strong that few of my friends ( count me in) dont go to home for months to escape this torture , family ,friends just dont seem to understand. I hate that category of friends who just cant undertand the single reason we quote for not getting married, even if our age their shrunken mind cant interepret the arguments we make . What matter for them is to just convince us for the idea of getting married as if we are their kids and if we don't listen the society would murder them. I understand these guys are concerned but friends are meant to stand for what we want and not impose something they deem right, arent they? Something like getting married might be right for them just for simple reason "they are different" but it is not be for us.
I fail to understand why cant people accept the simple rule of live and let live, When we never guided them as to when to get married , when to have a baby , when to shit , it amazes me why cant they shut their mouth and let us suffer ( for they feel we are lonely). I have always relished all the moments when my cousins/friends got married, it was their day and we were there to share their happiness but hey that doesnt mean that we should get married.
Marriage no matter how beautiful or how ugly is a major decision and every human has different priortes , marriage might not be top on the list . It is as simple as that. The society argues there is a certain age, the right age when you should tie the knot, who made these rules??? who??? And how many such rules we have been following?? On the contrary they say there is never a Right age and never a Right time!!
There are better things for us to do, few want to have a good career, few wants to travel, few are not ready yet , few don't believe in the constitution of Marriage , few are still waiting for the right person, and few just don't care . There is nothign wrong with any of this, nothing. And please dont argue with the statement that you can still do all of this after getting married, because you cant, you just cant, there is a change in the equation once you tie the knot.
It gets darn difficult to live in such a society that imposes such thoughts and listen to our heart , but hardly anyone understands this.So respect the choices we make rather then making us feel miserable by asking that question hundred times because it wont help the cause, it might just bring some distance and nothing good.There are so many ways people scare us, you wont get a good bloke, you would miss the right age to have kids, you will be lonely blah blah, . We are way above these factors or at least ignoring them as they don't seem to matter , so people keep all these warnings with yourself and save it for your kids.
For those who share the same thoughts it doesn't matter what society says, Marriage might be a good thing to consider as it gives you a companion to share the life with but its not compulsory , maybe not right now but after few years, when you deem right. We ll never be out of people to share our happiness , maybe the no. would decrease but there will always be enough. What matters is we are content with the decision we are making , we are listening to what our heart says because in the end what will matter is if we listened to our heart or the society.
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